Interfaith Wedding Ceremonies - A Warm Welcome Always Awaits You!
We may prove helpful to those who are considering marriage to someone of an unlike background in the
metropolitan New York and Long Island area. Our Clergy strive to celebrate the union of two traditions rather than to impose conditions which the couple must satisfy. The couple will come to view their respective religious traditions as springboards into a shared life. The past honored, the present solemnized, the future regarded with hope.
As Ordained Clergy with deep faith in our fellow man we affirm his right to make significant life choices freely and
intelligently. We regard the human mind as one of the great avenues to spiritual realization, we encourage among
our adherents the free play of philosophic thought, effectively combining reason with theological proposition.
Judging someone else's ability to marry properly is at best an unfair proposition. Yet the religious leaders of the
world continue to do so on a regular basis. The verdict passed on an interfaith or a second marriage generally
reflects disapproval. We need to recognize that the couple who is contemplating marriage or those who have
already joined their lives together are the ones who can offer insight into their relationship.
Those who find themselves labeled as a "difficult" or "mixed" or "interfaith" marriage insist that the value and
individual qualities of the couple supersede concerns for similar backgrounds. The assumption that unlike
backgrounds signifies an inherent flaw in a marriage composition suggests that society can only sanction love when
there are no strings attached.
Often couples face bitter obstacles which love alone cannot erase. A quandary exists as to how best to respond to
an insensitive, even hostile environment. Some couples question the wisdom and prudence of their heartfelt
decision to marry. Some couples elect to move to another place where the expectation is that a less judgmental
culture will prove more conducive to raising children of a mixed marriage.
There can be no doubt that couples with diverse backgrounds face a valid wide range of concerns as they pledge to
make their marriages work. Concerns expressed to us are:
- Family disappointment and outright embarrassment.
- Society's skepticism, "We all know these marriages fail".
- Grandparents' concerns about which religion the children will be raised in.
- Religious Concerns. Can the children be baptized in church, will they be admitted to religious
school? Can they be Bar/Bat Mizvah?
- Family Concerns such as which religious and ethnic customs will be observed and remain intact.
- Isolation resulting from a breakdown of support from the family and friends.
It would be ludicrous to suggest we have the ability to wholly change the attitudes of the world. It is our desire to
transcend the religious and cultural difficulties that those in need have experienced. We wish to extend our
compassion, concern, love and caring, which has been our tradition.
We welcome those who stand on the periphery of their religious community which chooses not to honor their
religious differences. So you may, once again, find each other in the warmth of a caring faith, with support and
understanding, during your time of need.
We welcome all who approach reverently and sincerely. We have no wish to proselytize, in any sense, from the
adherents of any church, synagogue, or temple.
We seek and enjoy full spiritual fellowship with other religious of the world. "Never Instead of,
Always In Addition To".
Before considering a civil alternative to your "difficult" marital problem, we suggest it might be wise to discuss
your situation fully with one of our Clergy. You will find him/her to be sympathetic, compassionate and
understanding. He will listen to you and evaluate your situation with an open mind.
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