Outlines of Various Interfaith Ceremonies

Greeting from Clergy

Processional "Longer"/ Dan Fogelberg Bride and groom process in, each accompanied by their parents

Candlelighting "Sunrise,Sunset"/ J. Bock & S Harnick Each set of parents lights a candle symbolizing their family tradition. During the last chorus, the bride and groom hug and kiss their parents and then move away from them to stand as a couple before the clergy.

Opening Prayer by Clergy

Reading 1

Reading 2

Statement of Intentions

Exchange of Vows

Lighting of the Candles "Sabbath Prayer"/J Bock & S Harnick Bride and groom take the flames from their parents' candles and light their own candle together.

From Our Friends

The Couple's Prayer "Lord, they stand before you happy and hopeful, yet also somewhat frightened. We believe that you brought them together and that You're one with them now. We also know that the road ahead will have both good times and hard times. We ask now that You bless them and be with them in the following days."

"Help them to live up to the vows they made to each other today. Keep their love fresh, alive, and growing. Remind them always to approach each other with gentleness and patience. Teach them how to communicate and trust more completely. Never let them take one another for granted."

"Guide them as we strive to hear You speaking to them through their religious traditions. Make them faithful to Yourself, as well as to each other. May their life togeher be a sign to others that people can live together in peace in spite of differences."

"Make their home a place of peace and growth where people are always welcome. Help them reach out to others to share the love and blessings they themselves have experienced."

"If You bless them with children make them good and loving parents. Help them always to remember that they are first of all Your children. Guide them as they try to raise them to be full and complete human beings aware of Your love, and help them to step aside when it is time to let go."

"Thank you for their family and friends, both those present and those unable to be with us today. Their love and friendship has led them to be what they are today. May their celebration strengthen their awareness of Your lover and their commitment to love others."

"And finally, guide those present home safely at day's end. Amen."

Song of Blessing: "Forever Young" / Bob Dylan

Clergy: Final Blessing

The Wine Ceremony: "Drinking from the wine glass and then crushing it is a tradition with many meanings. One is that it is a reminder of the hardshops endured throughout life. Another can be summed up in "what has been will never be the same, can never be the same, can never be put back together again". Finally, it serves as a reminder about marriage. Drinking the wine represents the joys and sweetness of life, and crushing the glass represents the hardships."

(Bride and groom each drink from the wine glass. Groom breaks the glass.

Introduction of the Newlyweds.

Recessional

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Processional "Joyful, Joyful, We Adore Thee" /Beethoven

Opening Statement: Minister: "We are gathered today in the presence of God to give thanks for the gift of marriage, and to witness the joining together of __________&__________. In various traditions, marriage is a sign of our Creator's intention for wholeness in all creation. Out of the chaos, God brought order. That creative purpose is still at work. The joining together of two persons into one unique, intimate, and creative unity in marriage is therefore not only a symbol but also a demomstration of the well-being, the purpose of human society. And so marriage is truly a celebration of God's good work in creation

The uniting of two individuals from two separate families and backgrounds to establish a new family is an important and memorable event. For us, attached as we are to _________& to ________ by special bonds of love and affection,the uniting of these two people in heart and body and mind, is an occasion of great significance which we can all celebrate.

Marriage is not a casual event, nor is it simply a private affair between two individuals. Marriage is to be entered into responsibly and prayerfully. This marriage brings together this day two individuals, two families, and two communities of faith. It is then, in the midst of a troubled and broken society, a sign of hope. It deserves and needs the support of a wider community. Today is a time for family and friends to share in their commitment to each other by offering _______ & _______our continued support, love and best wishes in their lives together.

In their love together, which they publicly express in this ceremony, ________ & _________demonstrate not only their joy in the present but their commitment to share the future together. We share their joy, and promise to do all we can to help bring to fulfillment a future of peace and justice for them and for all humanity.

Prayer: Let us pray: O Lord our God, source of all blessing, in happiness and joy we thank you for the gift of marriage, which we celebrate today. May you give _______ & _________ the ability to rejoice always in their love. May you fulfill every worthy wish of their hearts. May you open their eyes to the beauty and the mystery of the love they hold for each other, every day as today. And may their life together embrace and nurture the promise of this moment, so that all who know them will call them truly blessed. Amen.

Musical Interlude "Sunrise, Sunset" / J.Bock and S.Harnick

Vows: Minister: _______ & ________ please state your intent to enter into this union by expressing your vows to one another. ____________, repeat after me: "I promise, _______, before family and friends to commit my love to you; to respect your individuality; to be with you through life's changes; and to nurture and strengthen the love between us, as long as we both shall live".

(Bride repeats vow, then same for the groom)

Witnesses' Vow:

Minister: (To the congregation) "Will all of you witnessing these vows do everything in your power to uphold ________ & _________ in their marriage? Congregation: "We Will."

Rings

Minister: The wedding ring is a symbol of unity, a circle unbroken, without beginning or end. And today ______ & _______ give and receive these rings as demonstrations of their vows to make their life one, to work at all times to create a love that is whole and unbroken, and to love each other without end.

Groom, take this ring, and place it on your Bride's finger and state your pledge to her, repeating after me: "This ring I give you as a sign of our constant faith and abiding love."

Groom repeats and then bride.

Prayer: Minister: "Eternal God, without your grace no promise is sure. Strengthen _____ & ______ with patience, kindness, gentleness, and all the other gifts you so abundantly impart, that they may fulfill the vows they have made this day. Keep them faithful to each other and to You. Fill them with such love and joy that they may build a home of peace and welcome. And guide them by your word to serve you all their days. Amen.

Pronouncement of Marriage Minister: "Before God and in your presence as witnesses, ___ & _____ have made their solemn vows to each other. They have confirmed their promises by joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings. Therefore I proclaim that _______ & _______ are husband and wife.

Benediction: Minister: At the end of some ceremonies, we hear bells ringing, and of others, the breaking of the glass. Among the many interpertations of these two customs, one is that the loud noise of both the bells and the breaking of the glass scares away evil spirits wishing harm to the newly married couple.

Breaking a glass summons the notion that sweetness can only exist alongside bitterness---breaking the glass reminds us that although this wedding has provided joy, the world is still in turmoil, and requires our care and love. Its breaking is not only a reminder of sorrow, but also an expression of hope for a future free from all violence.

Frailty of the glass also suggests the frailty of human relationships. The glass, then, is broken to protect the marriage with an implied prayer, "As this glass shatters, so may your marriage never break".

The tradition of the breaking of the glass is a symbolic prayer and hope that your love for one another will remain until the pieces of this glass come together again. It is also a reminder that in the midst of all our rejoicing we should be mindful of all the want, pain and suffering that exist elsewhere in the world.

Let us, with this symbol, be particularly mindful of the needless barriers that people erect between one another, and try to think with the breaking of the glass, of breaking down those barriers and helping to build a world of respect, unity and peace."

And now may the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make His countenance to shine upon you, and be gracious unto you. May the ,Lord lift up His countenace upon you and give you peace this day and all your days. Amen.

Breaking of the Glass: Groom breaks the glass.

You may kiss your bride.

Recessional